I’m listening to a wonderful book at the moment, Glennon Doyle’s, Untamed.
It’s jam-packed full of metaphors and analogies, questions and comments, all of which speak to the deepest part of my soul in a language which it completely, utterly understands.
Here’s what a fragment of this looks like:
“Every time you’re given a choice between disappointing someone else and disappointing yourself, your duty is to disappoint someone else.
Your job, throughout your entire life is to disappoint as many people as it takes to avoid disappointing yourself.”
Mostly, I’ve been living this in reverse. I have it all backwards.
All of those times when I was desperate not to ‘rock the boat’ or let anyone down – when my mouth said yes and my gut screamed, ‘no!’ – I was putting others in front of myself.
In my desperate attempts to be disliked, or not disliked, I’ve even put the comfort of strangers before myself. Not always, but too often. I let myself down far too often.
I need to remember this. In those moments when it counts. I really want to work on disappointing others more and building up credibility with myself, listening to myself, keeping my own promises, looking after me.
Because ultimately, a life where you’re always focused on what others want, leads to a life that is… well… disappointing.