Happy 2018 – Day 260 – Top 5 Regrets of the Dying

In 2009, palliative care nurse Bronnie Ware wrote an article entitled, ‘Top 5 Regrets of the dying,’ based on her relationships and experiences of working with dying patients.

Here they are – the Top 5 Regrets of the Dying:

  1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
  2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
  3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
  4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
  5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

Every now and then, I find it useful to remind myself of these potential regrets; to picture myself at the end of my life, looking back on what I did or didn’t do.

Of course, life is about balance. And it might be that when you’re avoiding one potential regret, you’re actually causing another. I know this from personal experience, having started my business this January. More than ever, I’m fulfilling the idea of living a life true to myself and grounded in no ones’ expectations other than mine… which is incredible! But I’m also forced to put work first right now, which means that I haven’t seen friends anywhere near as much as I’d like.

I think at whatever point you look at this list, you’re probably going to feel that there’s more you could do to avoid a certain regret. But the point is that you look; that you address this; that you take some small steps to re-balance.

When I looked at this yesterday, I’d planned to spend a good few hours working before I let myself have a little Sunday relaxation.

But honestly? I’m knackered.

So sod it.

I’m taking the day off.

Today, I’ll just let myself be happy.



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