The Braver you are, the Better your Chances! (A Pretty Picture)

Today’s blog is a rather lazy but meaningful one. I simply wanted to share a post and graphic (thanks to @lizandmollie) that I saw yonks back on Michele Poler’s ‘HelloFears‘ Instagram account. I liked this so much that I actually printed it and stuck to my wardrobe door, where it still resides.

I get stuck in overthinking and fear of rejection, a lot. As much as I have tools to work through it, I’m still working against a hardwired habit of self-doubt in the face of courageous situations. When I need to put myself out there and I feel afraid and vulnerable, my brain asks really useless questions like: “You? Really?” and, “Who do you think you are?” and, “What if they say no?!!!” or worse still, “What if they say yes?!”

This picture helps to remind me that getting a ‘no’ doesn’t matter all that much. It’s asking the question in the first place that counts. If I’m hearing ‘no’ a lot, then it means that I’m asking a lot. And if I’m asking a lot, that can only lead to a greater number of possibilities and opportunities.

I think that this is what people mean when they talk about ‘making your own luck.’ Essentially, it’s the notion that success often mysteriously coincidences with huge amounts of trial, error and effort; that the braver you are, the better your chances seem to be.

Sure, you’ll hear ‘no’ more times than someone who stays quiet… but you’ll undoubtedly hear ‘yes!’ a lot more too!

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If you had the courage, what is the one thing you would ask: πŸ’₯ your partner πŸ’₯ your boss πŸ’₯ your best friend πŸ’₯ your parents πŸ’₯ your children πŸ’₯ your brother/sister πŸ’₯ mother-in-law . Would you ask for: πŸ™πŸΌ attention πŸ™πŸΌ love πŸ™πŸΌ support πŸ™πŸΌ recognition πŸ™πŸΌ presence πŸ™πŸΌ justice πŸ™πŸΌ respect πŸ™πŸΌ understanding . Every day we have so many things that if we would ask for them, we may get them. And still, we rather stay quiet. We don’t want to face #rejection β€” But the reality is that every time we don’t ask for the things we need and want, we are rejecting ourselves. YOU are taking away the possibility to have what you want, NOT the other person. . The best advice I’ve gotten, from other published authors, for my book, is to ASK for anything that I want, and ask for things often. They said that so many authors are afraid to ask for those things, so the budget ends up going not to the best authors, but to the most courageous ones πŸ™‹πŸΌβ€β™€οΈ . That applies for everything in life! . ⚑️ Courage, is what will get us what we deserve, and sometimes, even more ⚑️ . I’m so glad I wrote an entire chapter about this topic in my book, it’s a great reminder, even to myself. If you also need this reminder, make sure to read chapter 8 of my book once you get it! πŸ‘‰πŸΌ . Today’s challenge is for you to ask for ONE thing. Drop a β€œπŸ˜±β€ if you accept it! . BIG THANKS to @lizandmollie for their amazing image, so simple, so powerful πŸ‘ŠπŸΌ Love that account! #hellofears #courage #motivation #justask #book

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