Today’s blog is a rather lazy but meaningful one. I simply wanted to share a post and graphic (thanks to @lizandmollie) that I saw yonks back on Michele Poler’s ‘HelloFears‘ Instagram account. I liked this so much that I actually printed it and stuck to my wardrobe door, where it still resides.
I get stuck in overthinking and fear of rejection, a lot. As much as I have tools to work through it, I’m still working against a hardwired habit of self-doubt in the face of courageous situations. When I need to put myself out there and I feel afraid and vulnerable, my brain asks really useless questions like: “You? Really?” and, “Who do you think you are?” and, “What if they say no?!!!” or worse still, “What if they say yes?!”
This picture helps to remind me that getting a ‘no’ doesn’t matter all that much. It’s asking the question in the first place that counts. If I’m hearing ‘no’ a lot, then it means that I’m asking a lot. And if I’m asking a lot, that can only lead to a greater number of possibilities and opportunities.
I think that this is what people mean when they talk about ‘making your own luck.’ Essentially, it’s the notion that success often mysteriously coincidences with huge amounts of trial, error and effort; that the braver you are, the better your chances seem to be.
Sure, you’ll hear ‘no’ more times than someone who stays quiet… but you’ll undoubtedly hear ‘yes!’ a lot more too!
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